The Leading of the Holy Spirit

By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care. For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ. If anyone builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, their work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each person's work. If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward. If it is burned up, the builder will suffer loss but yet will be saved – even though only as one escaping through the flames. Don't you know that you yourelves are God's temple and that God's Spirit dwells in your midst? - 1 Corinthians 3: 10-16

Jesus is a foundation, as solid as a rock, He never changes. If your life collapses, you can't accuse foundation. We can accuse only ourselves, because we are the ones, who choose THE BUILDING MATERIAL. Building material means all those choices we make during our life time. You can follow Jesus and do things in His way – then you will build a house with "gold, silver and costly stones" as the scripture says. But when you continuously choose YOUR way, then you house is built with "hay and straw"

Would you like to live in a house, that is made of hay? One spark, and the whole house will go up in flames. It's a very good example about why it's wiser to follow God's plan. What are your plans and purposes? Are you sure they are God's plans and purposes as well?

God has given us the Holy Spirit, so we could have power to choose the right way. Why? Because one day we will all stand before God and account for how we lived. Sin ALWAYS brings loss and failure.

SO....What should I do?

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. - Galatians 6:7-8

I'm not trying to tell you that you have to perfect to get in heaven. Not at all. No one can be perfect....it's impossible. What I try to tell is, that you have to strive for perfection. It means, that you have to descipline yourself. Live selfishly, and you will pay for it. God calls his children to order. Trust me, you wouldn't like God to punish you – it hurts.

How can I change myself and my character?

To be honest, we really can't change ourselves, but God has given us the Holy Spirit. If you accept Him(the Holy Spirit), he can start changing your personality, character, heart....everything that is ruined by this world. He will change you until you are like Jesus – loving, patient, kind etc. The Holy Spirit gives you self-control, which helps you to put other first.
Holy Spirit wants to change your heart, but you have to play the leading roll. We are called to crucify our sin nature and condemn it. You have been given new choices every day, but you have the freedom to say no (or yes). If you are accused of doing something you didn't do, for example breaking a vaze, then help to clean the shards of class. It might be VERY hard at the beginning, but in time the Holy Spirit changes your heart and your personality.

If anyone hurts us or messing something up, our first reaction is to revenge. Trusting God's leading and sharing His love require choices.

The more you choose God's way, the more comprehensive is the fruit that the Holy Spirit evokes in you!

I'm not trying to tell you that everything you do must be successful, but compared to your past life, the next years should be much more God-centered not self-centered